How Do You Want to be Treated

Now that I am feeling better more than half the time, my mind started to do more thinking, instead of blocking the pain!

So I get to think a little more about things...

Growing up, I was introduced to harsh discipline, unlike most kids my time and definitely very different from kids these days.

I was used to words like stupid, no brain, because I said so and a good beating when I refused to accept "I told you so" as an answer.

So I worked hard, I strived even harder to ensure I knew better than the rest on things I liked and did so no one could ever label me. Ever!

Talk about negative encouragements!

I know for a fact if I allowed this to happen to my own kids, the vicious cycle will continue to the next generation. This just isn't right and I want it to stop at me.

I am thankful I discovered this now as I haven't started family of my own just yet.

I wouldn't want to label my kids stupid, no brain, etc when they grow up, or for them to call me that when I grow old.

At the same time, I need to find a way to get through to them at an early age that listening skill, power of observation and being able to think logically and make sound decisions are all life's skills needed to be a complete human being.

There is no Parenting 101. But I know I have people that I can ask for help and guidance.

For a start, I have Dr & Mrs Kok.

For them to have 4 great kids, they must have done something very right!

I know for a fact that Mrs Kok has parents that brought her 2 brothers and her up well too. We have been neighbours before I was even born!

So I am indeed very blessed to have reconnected with them just recently!

Dr & Mrs Kok

Mrs Kok's (Agatha) dad

and mum

P.S.

Yo Dr Kok, when I grow up I wanna be just like you :D

Still Finding My Ways

Not too long ago, I thought life was about fulfilling my childhood dreams.

I bought myself the coupe, the hatchback and the roadsters my father promised to get me when I got my driving license.

He passed away before I reached driving age.

Anyway, I got them all later on!

Then I realized life is more than material things.

I needed to refocus.

I started my own business, from providing small scale brand consultation work to working with agencies and setting up partnerships to pitch for major branding projects.

Life became work.

Work was life.

Eventually, I started to search for more meaningful things in life.

Hence, earlier this year, I started to focus on:

Health in my body,
Wealth in my life,
Peace in my heart,
Joy in my home.

Just today, I finally realized I need to accept one thing, the one thing that most probably will give me joy in my home and peace in my heart:

Live for myself. Live my life.

Live a life I intend to live.

I need to learn to let go.

Just need to figure out how much is enough of a let go.

Funny this thing called life.

I thought I was selfish when it used to be all about me and my dreams.

I've just come a full circle.

It's just that I haven't figured out what's the difference between then and now.

Not just yet...







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